Saturday, March 31, 2012

Imagine all the possibilities


John Lennon had it right on the nose!
“Imagine all the people
Living life in peace...

You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one

Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world...”

Can YOU Imagine this?

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

The Hazards of Exercising

I am of the belief that if I had a personal trainer, a nutritionist, a stylist, a top-notch hair stylist and a make-up artist I would be in shape & simply FABULOUS. HELL, it works for the reality "Stars"!

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from Laugh 'Til the Mascara Runs - 2012 calendar
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What it comes down to is this....I'm lazy, I have a bad back and am out of shape. I work in Marketing & PR so I'm sitting on my ass 8-10 hours a day. The only exercise I get is when I go to the restroom, or walk up and down the 2 flights of stairs to go smoke. Then, I'm tired & it's time to go home...and watch TV (I do LOVE my DVR) or read (Thanks again for Nook Tablet M&D&J).

Also, certain exercises tend to be hazardous if you have certain natural hazards are my big boobs (Genes...enough said).

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Living Life by the Seat of Your Pants, a la Dr. Seuss

So, my friend Scott's wife said that my Blog background reminds her of Dr. Seuss...this one's for you Kresta!

Living Life by the Seat of Your Pants (ala Dr. Seuss)

If you live life by the seat of your pants,
Every day you take a chance.

Your world is not what you thought it would be,
But if it was otherwise, would you be happy?
And even though you’ve loved and lost,
Remember that experience comes with a cost.

When no one calls you on the phone,
You go to dinner all alone.
Some people say you’re really brave,
You’re not brave, it’s company you crave.

You may not have a lot of friends,
But the friends you have, you’ll have til the end.
Every day as you leave for work,
Be thankful you don’t work for a jerk.

Give blessings if you know how to read,
It was your parents and teachers who planted that seed.
Sometimes all you want to do is dance and sing,
At other times you just want to swing.

Especially when you’re feeling sad,
Just remember, life is not so bad.
When you wonder if there’s more,
Unless you search, you’ll never be sure.

When you feel like sleeping all day,
Get up. Go outside, and play.
Even when you’re not sure and steady,
Life always changes, so just get ready.

Always be grateful for what you’ve got,
There are so many others who haven’t got a lot.
When you get down and out,
Remember what life is all about.

Take some time to live it up,
Always keep your chin to up.
And when all is said and done,
Just remember where you come from.

When your life is full of no’s and can’ts,
Just take some time...
                                                  and Live Life by the Seat of Your Pants.

Copyright 2012 Laurie J. Bokuniewicz. All rights reserved.

Thursday, March 8, 2012

Welcome to Living Life by the Seat of Your Pants!

Now, I don’t want to overwhelm you right from the start, but you need a bit of an overview to understand what “Living Life by the Seat of Your Pants” is all about & where it started…

Below is where this all began…4 years ago….Actually, it started before that - almost 45 years ago.

As you will see (because it’s what you are currently reading)….I’ve decided to write a Blog…not a book. For Now.
A “Day” in the Life of a Forty-Something Single
Full of humor. It’s raw, open & real.
June 22, 2008

I’ve said for years I’m going to write a book…I’ve now officially started.

Today. Here. Now.

I've read lots of books over the past few years…it’s one of the greatest gifts I’ve given myself & I’ve had the power all along, although I never used it. Use it.

In the past decade, we’ve seen a borage of Chick Lit books….and I’ve read a bunch. I want to thank Helen Fielding, Meg Cabot, Candace Bushnell, Madeline Wickham, Jackie Collins, Charlaine Harris, Jennifer Weiner, Janet Evanovich, Patricia Cornwell, Stephanie Meyer, and a host of others for writing women with true, powerful qualities like intelligence, humor, sexiness, confidence, silliness, passion, sympathy, boldness, strength & compassion. But, in the in end of most of these books…the heroine finds "Her Prince"…it’s not so much in real life.

In real life (at least in my real life), you move to Sunny So-Cal hoping to find yourself & grow…which I did, unfortunately it was to a size 20.

Of course it couldn’t have anything to do with being laid off several times in our "growing economy” – mergers, acquisitions, “reorganizations”, downsizing…I think I’ve seen it all – been through it all. It does a number on ones' self esteem. Neither does gaining 50 pounds, steadily going grey & realizing what a Nasty Bitch gravity is.

But I digress (I do that often, especially in real conversations – as EVERYONE who knows me would say)…Anyway, here’s my basic message to all those gals out there who just think that you can sit back & wait for your life to happen. It won't. You’ve got to be proactive & search for what YOU want & what will fulfill YOU. Your life may not turn out to be what you expect it to be. It’s not a bad thing…just be prepared. I wasn’t.

Tomorrow I’ll be 41 + 2 months; at my present job for 2 years, 1 month & a few days– only 2 more years & I’ll pass my job longevity record; I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been; up to my eyeballs in debt and my gumball machine is running out of gumballs (Great analogy from a chick lit book, apologies for not rememebering).
I thought that I’d be married, with children by the time I was in my early thirties – at the latest. That was the only plan I had…although it wasn’t so much a plan as just a given in my mind.

You may think after all this that I’m ready to find the nearest skyscraper (they keep building up San Diego, so I have plenty to choose from)…but no, I have a few things going for me….hope & optimism.

So, here’s my story. At the time of its birth, it’s 10:54 p.m. on a Sunday night…I can’t guarantee that when I do finish I won’t have found my purpose in life, my soul mate or lost some weight, but as of right now – my stats: 41+, single -not dating and not a single prospect, 218 lbs, got my period, bad back, in debt, smoker, drinker (not heavily…well, not often, heavily when I actually do drink), living in a cute Cottage that is disorganized, cluttered and has been for the 2 ½ years I’ve lived here, and dreading going to work tomorrow.

Ok. So I started reading, “The Artist’s Way” – over 2 years ago. I pulled it out, dusted it off & reread the first few chapters…that was about 3 weeks ago. I’m at the section where I need to make a decision to actually start the program – for the next 12 weeks….the problem is, The Morning Pages.

I think I started The Morning Pages when I first got the book and I did them…for about 3 days. Therein lies the problem – I’m NOT a morning person. So…before I go to bed tonight, I think I need to make a decision (since this is the first time I’ve actually thought about the program in the past 3 weeks) – do I get up early tomorrow & write my 3 pages and see if it gets me going on a creative streak so I can actually start writing this book that I’ve started…or sleep in like I usually do.

It’s now 11:08 p.m. on the evening of June 22, 2008. I’m afraid that if I start the morning pages tomorrow then I’ll come up with some creative flow that just has me writing & writing about things I was to say in this “book”, but I think one of the things about the morning pages is that you don’t read them…ever. You just write to get the ideas flowing…the thought process flowing…I think I may miss something if I do them.

But, I may gain something – like the impetus to not stop what I’ve started here & to keep on going no matter which direction it takes me in…

I think it’s time for bed…let’s see what tomorrow brings.

4/14/2010– 4/15/2010

Since last time I wrote…. my stats: 42 years, 8 months & 356 days, single - not dating and not a single prospect, 220 lbs, STILL got a bad back, STILL in debt, smoker, drinker (not heavily…well, not often, heavy when I actually do drink – as is the case tonight), living in a cute Cottage that is (STILL) disorganized & has way too much “stuff”, and has been for the 4 ¼ years I’ve lived here, and NOT dreading going to work tomorrow because I’m unemployed (yet, again – just over a year now)….can’t believe it’s been this long since I’ve read this...or have read it to anyone – 2 people today.

Question for the day: “Am I the only one who is experiencing this – right here, right now?”

And I have said this twice today and that has been quoted to me recently & it still holds the same truths….

Whatever changes, remains the same.
April 22, 2010, 6:40 p.m. PST

Forty-two years, 364 days and 8 hours (if I’m right & I was the one who was born at 11:40 a.m.)

Reflection time is a good time to write. After all, this “book” is all about reflection and changes and moving on and standing still sometimes.
March 8, 2012 at 6:14 p.m.
SO…you see where I have been & what I’ve been doing. Not much has changed, but today is as good a day as any to start…

I have tons of Notes from my book ideas & my Blog ideas about different categories & chapters & actual names of posts that I'll be writing about. I hope you join me & I encourage you to contribute & comment.

The only promise I can make is that this Blog will definitely be a few things: shorter, genuine, upbeat, positive, open, honest and passionate.

And hopefully be others: insightful, humorous, encouraging, bold, intelligent, and inspirational.

Enjoy & thanks for joining me on the maiden voyage of Living Life by the Seat of Your Pants!